Stories - Deejay
As the daughter of two alcoholic parents, Deejay began to use drugs and alcohol at a very young age. She remembers one Christmas Eve when she experienced her first full-blown hangover; she was only 8 years old.
“My mother was not a very nice person when she drank, and I always told myself that if I ever drank I’d never be like her. And actually, I was worse. I don’t ever remember her being arrested. Don’t ever remember her losing a job, and both of those things happened to me as a direct result of my alcoholism”, she admits. Her father she describes as a “jovial” kind of alcoholic. He liked to dance and play cards–she trusted him. To her father’s dismay, Deejay remembered the time her mother pulled a gun on him when she was 5 years old. It was around this time they eventually divorced.
"My mother died as a direct result of her alcoholism at the age of 48, and I came into recovery at the age of 48."
Deejay began to take steps to seek help, little by little, reaching out. She found herself in contact with people in Celebrate Recovery. “I didn’t want to go there”, she recalls thinking, after her employer mandated her to attend. She would soon grow to love her newfound family in “CR” who loved her, accepted her and taught her to love herself.
“I’ve lost a man that I called Poppy for the last 35 years. I’ve called him Poppy, and I’ve called his wife, who happens to be my mother’s younger sister, Mommy. I found out about 4 years ago that those two people prayed for me, constantly. They never judged me, they never hammered me, never told me to get to church. They simply prayed for me”. She shared in their joy to know their prayers were answered when she finally called and told them of her recent baptism. “Their child had come home”.
Her last drink was May 10, 2008. Despite some rough spots, she considers herself “a grateful recovering alcoholic and addict”.